I grew up with a very queenly mother. She always teaches me about how to be and how not to be in terms of conducting and presenting myself, especially in social graces. I grew up with things like how I should always close my legs when sitting in public, in public transportation, at home especially when there are visitors, and even when there are none.
My mom constantly reminds me to fix my posture, to stand straight, to put my after-bath wet hair in front because putting them at the back will bring cold heaps to my lungs, to brush my hair at least 100 times before sleeping, to not include “slang words” in my vocabulary because these do not make me sound prim and proper. I know! Andami diba? (Isn’t it too many?)
Well, there are still a lot of things she taught me, that’s why when I was invited to attend The Winning Image: Personality Development Workshop, I knew my mother would really be thrilled to know about this, especially if she were here. I imagined she would be the first one to ask what will I wear, what are the topics that will be discussed, and that I immediately report back what I’ve became from the things I learned . So this is me posting my answers, hopefully heaven has a WiFi so Mama can connect and read.
I became the message.
The workshop was pressing to state that all of the things we want to express can be all wrapped up in our beautiful selves. You need not bring accessories. You are your own jewelry. Carry your message within you.
If we want to market our brand, we should be the brand. If we have an advocacy, we should be the first one to campaign and advocate. There is no greater message, than us. I believe I can use this when I market Versaheel shoes. I must always convey the versatility, comfort and fashion my brand wants to envision. It’s a pressure actually, to always look good and be deemed classy, but it is only with this kind of effort and passion that you shall reach the goals you have set.
I became someone worthy to invite wealthy situations towards herself.
This is tricky, if just taken literally. This not just embodies the physical being, but you have to be someone likeable, someone people would love to interact with, not just stare at. You won’t make meaningful connections by just looking pretty.
You have to use whatever beauty you have to invite good things to happen to you. So I went, and made new friends!
I became an influence.
This is a shocker. Ms. Leizel Obuga, our lovely Resource Speaker said that:
55% of our influence is based on appearance, body language and the way we take up space
38% goes to how we deliver our message: tone, volume, pitch, and pace of our voices
7% is based on spoken word.
We actually tried this one-by-one, as each of the participants went in front to tell something about herself/himself. I was kind of worried if 30 seconds was enough. I was very conscious with the time I consume, because if you’ve ever attended my training, I can be extra chatty. I think that is one I need to improve on. To be concise but still insightful.
With the kind of percentage presented, I was stunned. I speak a lot but only 7% of that is retained. I guess we really have to try and look our best. It’s the shell, and nobody would want to listen to somebody who gives off an impression like he/she has nothing worthwhile to say.
I became my own wardrobe police.
“I have a lot of clothes” is an understatement. Well, my mom loves clothes, and she likes keeping and collecting dresses just in case there may be an occasion that would need them. Our closets are usually the go-get-to of my relatives, because they know that Mama always has a piece for every event. In the workshop, I was hit by this statement:
“You will only know that you are truly well-dressed when you have something hanging in your closet for every event you will be attending in the next 6 months.”
I wonder. After this workshop, I started rummaging in my closet just to check if I still have something missing. I later on discovered that there were pieces I no longer wear, and they take so much space. I thought I have everything I need, but then again I realized they weren’t wearable anymore.
Now, I am either thinking of donating them or be creative by recycling them. Well, having a DIY revamp session would be nice. So maybe the lesson is, even if you know you have a lot of clothes, you still need to check them from time to time, just to know if you still need or would you still be wearing them.
I now know I have to get a new white blazer. Some leathery fabric in the neckline is already chipping. L
I became a winner.
Honestly, I really did. There is nothing more indispensable than learning, and knowing how to present and conduct yourself, because you do this everyday. Getting more knowledge from the expert made me realize that we should invest more in ourselves, because we are the tools that can change the world. And, to make our princess dreams come true! I’m not talking about marrying the most charming prince (Haha although it would be a bonus! Wink!) , but by pursuing what we really want.
And this training and workshop held by Go Up Events helped me improve my image and personal branding to attract favourable situations to come my way. The Winning Image: Personality Development Workshop definitely made me a step closer to my princess dreams!
And oh. that is me receiving my Chocolate Flavoured Room Spray from Zen Zest. I got my award for being one of the first 3 bloggers to get the word out for this event. 🙂 Haha I was really excited!
I do hope they organize another session, because a lot of women, and men will highly benefit from this!
Thank you Ms. Leizel Obuga for sharing your exceptional knowledge and skills on Personality Development! I felt like a princess learning her lessons in your workshop!
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What do you think of this post? Have you attended any Personality Development Workshop? How was your experience? I’d like to know what you think.